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Write a Will
Career & Finance: Retirement

I feel relieved. Not only have I written the will, but I also took the step to make sure that my arrangements are taken care of - should something happen. I never realized that I was being both irresponsible and selfish by going without a will. It only took an hour or so and I am so glad that I completed this task.

Why were you inspired to do this?

As I am getting into my thirties, my older family members are passing away. I have noticed the great care and detail put into their wills. It did not dawn on me until my grandfather passed that my avoid a will was an effort to avoid my own mortality. I realized that it is irresponsible to not have a will regardless of your income, marriage or parenting status.

What were 3 things you did to make this happen?

I will need time. I need to think about what I want to say and how I would want things handled. I realize that the more specific I am, the easier it is on my loved ones later.

A place to stash it. I think I need to go get a safety deposit box??? I just can't leave it laying around the house. How crazy would that be?

I may need an attorney or a notary to complete the process. Apparently, I need to investigate all aspects of this process prior to completion.

How did you feel once you had accomplished this?

Myself. I think that I sometimes avoid things... more than just procrastination. I think I sometimes treat difficult things with a passive aggressive attitude. Hopefully, by putting it on my list, I can be accountable for getting it done.



8/6/2011 5:04:16 PM

Hi dearabby,

I am 24 but before I left my home country to go abroad I wrote my will. Unfortunately my mom learned about that and was saying about not doing it, she felt like I want to die. I also feel is about simply about taking responsibilities. I also did the steps u mentioned. Talked to a notary, took some time thinking and writing it and at the end in stead of a safety deposit I gave it to a relative that I know will cause no issues.

Why do you want to do this?

As I am getting into my thirties, my older family members are passing away. I have noticed the great care and detail put into their wills. It did not dawn on me until my grandfather passed that my avoid a will was an effort to avoid my own mortality. I realized that it is irresponsible to not have a will regardless of your income, marriage or parenting status.

What three things will you need to make this happen?

I will need time. I need to think about what I want to say and how I would want things handled. I realize that the more specific I am, the easier it is on my loved ones later.

A place to stash it. I think I need to go get a safety deposit box??? I just can't leave it laying around the house. How crazy would that be?

I may need an attorney or a notary to complete the process. Apparently, I need to investigate all aspects of this process prior to completion.

What is the biggest barrier to your achieving this?

Myself. I think that I sometimes avoid things... more than just procrastination. I think I sometimes treat difficult things with a passive aggressive attitude. Hopefully, by putting it on my list, I can be accountable for getting it done.

7/29/2011 1:58:46 PM

It took me a few tries, but I did complete the will. It feels nice knowing that if something happens, I am not leaving people in the lurch. As much as I accept responsibility for myself, contemplating your own mortality and how things should be handled, can be a lot to bear. I am glad that I faced this challenge and feel more emboldened as I look toward another new goal of starting a company.

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